5 Rules For Being Unhappy

If you're doing even one of these things, it might be time to ask yourself why?

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I've created these rules as thing's to be avoided. I obviously don't want anyone to be unhappy and you shouldn't take the advice given here seriously. It's more of an observation then a guide to unhappiness.

Rule 1: Talk about what you don't want.

Energy flows where attention goes. What that means is you're putting your energy into whatever you're focusing on. So if you're focusing on the things in your life that are bad or that you don't want to happen then you're directing your energy towards what you don't want to create in your life. But here's the kicker: Your brain doesn't register negations. It doesn't understand that you DON'T want those things. What it does understand is that those things are important to you because you keep thinking and talking about them. So if you want to be unhappy, then make sure you focus on the bad shit in life, set negative goals (i.e. I don't want to be fat), and talk about what you don't want to happen.

Rule 2: Live in the past.

Forget today and tomorrow, yesterday is what's important if you want to be unhappy. And if you really want to be miserable then we can take it a step further by living 10, 15, or even 20 years in the past. Keep that story going about how you could have been a pro football player if you only hadn't injured your knee. Keep reliving that betrayal from the father of your children all those years ago. Stay stuck there. Fester in those negative emotions. Hold onto those resentments and become a slave to your unforgiveness. That's how you really can live a miserable existence. That's how you live in hell. Think about the should have's, and the could have's, and the would have's but did not's. Live there and you'll be one unhappy person.

Rule 3: Focus on what you don't have.

Instead of being grateful for what you do have and being thankful for the things that are going right, be sure to focus on what your lacking in life. This is a surefire way to be unhappy. There's probably a bunch of shit that you want and don't have. You want to feel like you are owed something and that you're not getting it. Feel like your getting the short end of the stick in life and that nothing good ever happens to you. If you do this, I promise you'll be pretty damn unhappy.

Rule 4: Don't smile and keep your head down.

It's proven that your physiology affects your mood so if you are aiming to be an unhappy camper then you mustn't smile nor stand up straight. Frown and look down. That should be your motto "FROWN AND LOOK DOWN." Yes, that sounds about right. If you ever saw someone that is sad, that person is contracted, slouching or hunched over, looking at the ground, and frowning. That's what you need to act like if you're going to be unhappy.

Rule 5: Seek all forms of immediate pleasure.

Don't do anything hard, look for the easiest path, and forget about the future. Steer clear from anything challenging that could make life better for you in the future. Set yourself up for failure by being lazy and unproductive. Seek short-term happiness so that you may be eternally unhappy in your future. Eat junk food and binge television. Have meaningless relationships and do drugs. Whatever things will bring you pleasure in the now, do that, regardless of the consequences. That's how you can be truly unhappy.

Next week i will be posting 5 rules for happiness

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Thanks for reading and I'll catch you next Sunday!