Some value time but I believe it's not time that we need to value. It's what we do with our time that's valuable.
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“Time... we don't have a choice as to if we spend it or not-- but we do get to choose HOW we spend it.” - Robert James Stanish
I dedicate this post to Robert Tyson, my late great-grandfather whom I love and miss dearly.
It's been a year.
It's October of 2021 and I was reading through my journal to get ideas for blog posts. I came across a journal entry from November 1st, 2020 about receiving a call that my great-grandfather had died. It's hard to write about this because I'm not quite sure I dealt with the grief properly.
At first, I was upset with myself. Twice last year I wanted to visit my great-grandparents and didn't. I regretted not doing so and I was mad at myself for not calling. I was mad at the pandemic for allowing me to make an excuse for not stopping by. I had felt like I should have just stopped anyways.
It's been a year since he's passed and his death has made me realize that it isn't time that's valuable as much as it's how we spend our time and who we spend it with.
Family is important.
I say that and yet, I'm not super close with any of my family members except for my son. It's not that I don't want to be. I'm admitting it because I'd like to work on this. It's challenging for me.
I feel like I'm making progress with this. Since my great-grandfather has passed, I've seen my great-grandmother and I've talked with her on the phone. Also, just recently I went to a Phillies game with my brother, grandfather, and step-dad.
It's not about perfection, it's about progress. You don't need to spend every moment together or even talk every day on the phone but if you have an opportunity to spend time with family, take it because your family members won't be around forever.
Love is important.
I'm in love and I'm getting married in May of 2022 to my amazing Fiancée Catherine. I spend lots of time with her and our children. She's irritating and we don't always get along but I can be quite the annoyance myself and we choose to love each other regardless.
We love our children and we spend time with them. My favorite things to do with my son is go skiing in the winter and skating in the summer. My favorite thing to do with my daughter is go for a drive together and listen to her when she tells me about what's going on in her life.
Love isn't about saying I love you. It's choosing to give your time and attention to someone you care about.
Time is important.
I used to value time itself. I've come to realize that time is only as valuable as the way you're choosing to spend that time.
Spend less time with things and more time with people. Spend it with your family. Spend time with your friends. Spend time with the people you love and spend time with yourself.
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